After spending a Sunday afternoon drinking coffee with Cat and Alex, I had every intention of following up our first meeting with an email that said "even if you don't pick me to be your photographer, may I please be your friend?" I was able to refrain for long enough that they hired me before they found out how creepy I am :)
I wish you could meet them. You would want to be friends with them too. Their wedding day was so free. Just unrestrained. It was really so incredible to witness two people being so present for their own wedding day. So them. It wasn't a formal-version of them. Or a wedding-day-nervous-version of them. Or a we-have-to-follow-all-the-rules-version of them. Just them. So free and happy to be getting married to each other. And actually, this reading that they included in their ceremony says it all. I only know because the girl who was reading it during the ceremony had one of those beautiful speaking voices that stops you in your tracks. I had to smack myself back to reality. I asked Cat for the details...it's a passage by Madeline L'Engle from the Irrational Season:
"But ultimately there comes a moment when a decision must be made. Ultimately two people who love each other must ask themselves how much they hope for as their love grows and deepens, and how much risk they are willing to take. It is indeed a fearful gamble. Because it is the nature of love to create, a marriage itself is something which has to be created, so that, together we become a new creature.
To marry is the biggest risk in human relations that a person can take. If we commit ourselves to one person for life this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession, but participation. It takes a lifetime to learn another person. When love is not possession, but participation, then it is part of that co-creation which is our human calling, and which implies such risk that it is often rejected."
I couldn't agree more, Madeline. Cat and Alex, here's to freedom and risks! I'm so happy I could document your wedding!